5 questions to determine if your parents need assisted living
Many seniors place a heavy emphasis on aging in place. In fact, recent research shows that, if given the choice, nearly all older Canadians would prefer to age in place within their own homes and communities. While this is undoubtedly an admirable goal that many older adults get to accomplish, for some, it’s not a feasible option. Sometimes, moving to a retirement community becomes the better option to ensure their safety and well-being. But how do you know when it’s the right time to make the switch? Review our Aging at Home versus Living in a Retirement Residence guide for starters. This guide will offer a detailed exploration of both options so you can make an informed choice that aligns with your loved one’s preferences and needs.
Here are five essential questions to determine if assisted living is the best option for your loved one:
1. Do they seem lonely or isolated?
If they live alone and find themselves spending significant stretches of time alone—perhaps because they’ve been recently widowed, their family doesn’t live nearby, or mobility issues or lack of transportation make it harder to go out and see friends—they may desire more daily interaction with people. Pay attention to whether your loved one seems withdrawn or expresses a desire for more company. Our assisted living communities offer built-in options for socializing, from shared meals and holiday events to clubs and outings. Not interested in any activities? That’s perfectly fine, too. Beyond their own private suite, there are always places to enjoy a coffee or tea with an old—or new—friend. The choice of when and who to socialize with is always theirs.
2. Are they struggling with daily activities?
Daily activities such as cooking, cleaning, bathing, and managing medications can become increasingly challenging with age. One of the most evident signs that your parent, grandparent, or loved one might need the help of supportive living is if their home has become increasingly unkempt. For instance, dirty dishes piling up in the sink, food going bad in the refrigerator, and the accumulation of several weeks’ worth of newspapers should all raise red flags. Similarly, you should be looking for signs they’re not taking care of themselves, including whether they are wearing the same clothes or have not bathed. If you’ve noticed your older loved one is struggling with these essential life tasks, it may signal that it’s time for assisted living.
3. Is their current living environment safe and accessible for their needs?
Do they live alone and feel unsafe in the evenings or worried while sleeping alone at night? Are you concerned they wouldn’t be able to reach someone quickly in an emergency? Consider factors such as stairs, bathroom modifications, and general layout. Seniors with mobility issues may find it increasingly difficult to navigate a home that wasn’t designed with aging in mind. Many people consider retirement living because they are concerned about their loved one’s security or physical safety. Our assisted living homes provide peace of mind for residents and their families, with staff available 24/7. Additionally, many of our residences feature accessible designs and amenities like grab bars, ramps, and emergency call systems that are just a button push away.
4. Is managing home maintenance becoming overwhelming for your loved one?
Even if your loved one enjoys some aspects of homeownership, maintaining a property can be a lot to manage. From yard work and snow removal to more complex tasks like roof repairs, these responsibilities can become physically demanding and pose safety hazards for seniors. Assisted living communities take care of everything, including:
- Exterior repairs (window replacement, roof repair, siding, etc.)
- Electrical and plumbing issues
- Yard maintenance
- Sidewalk and driveway clearing
- And much more!
5. Can you continue to provide adequate care for your loved one in the long-term?
Caring for an aging loved one can be a significant responsibility, and it may be time to consider assisted living if it’s causing strain on your ability to maintain a healthy balance in your own life. Assisted living offers a proactive approach to finding trained, compassionate, and round-the-clock care for your loved one. This allows you to focus on strengthening your relationship with them and enjoying quality time together without the constant pressure of being attentive to all their needs. It’s also important to remember the hidden costs of caregiving, which can be financial, like homecare services and emotional, such as stress, burnout, and fatigue.
Making the Decision
Choosing the right time for your loved one to move to assisted living is never easy. If you’re unsure about the best course of action, we’re here to help. If you’re considering Chartwell for your loved one, visit Find A Residence to locate a retirement residence near you. Once you’re ready, book a personalized tour to learn more about our assisted living program or, if you live in Ontario, we also offer a Care Assist program, so your loved one can continue living a life full of possibilities while receiving exceptional care in a welcoming residence.
Sources: https://nrc.canada.ca/en/research-development/research-collaboration/programs/aging-place-challenge-program